actually, figuratively...i am really jealous of my friend. She's really smart. I try just as hard as she does, and she always pulls ahead of me in grades...also, i study a lot, and she just does things and they are right. additioannly, she looks like a barbie doll. she is very tall, skinny, long goldy brown hair. in band, we both play the same instrument, and she is always first seat. Another thing is, she is really mean to people a lot, and everyone just laughs. no one does for anyone else i know. I am really jealous. i don't want to continue that way. please help me.
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in the 7th grade i had a friend just like that.. the acc classes the long blonde hair, being in the higher orch, perfect family life..ugh i hated that. any way i was best friends with this girl we will just call her sally. ok so sally was super smart really pretty and did every single thing better then me. i could never beat her and after a while she started rubbing things in my face and made me feel like well ****. i wanted to do every thing she did i wanted to be her. but after a while sally really started upsetting me so i hung out with another girl and just stopped being friends with sally. i really liked her and still want to be friends but i will never go back to being her friend. we are in 9th grade now and haven't talked since the end of 7th grade. to get her to stop hanging around me i totally hung out with that other girl i met and pretty much left sally out and made her feel bad. that was wrong i know but i didn't know what else to do. she is still smarter then me and a much better violin player but she cut off all her hair and went from being a girly girl to punk/goth. im a totally girly girl now so her looks don't get me any more. but now that we aren't friends her perfectness doesn't bother me at all. unless you can talk to her and work tihngs out you might have to do what i did...sorry
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Well.... The thing to remember is that no one is perfect. If she is going around making fun of people it's because she feels bad about herself.
As for the grades.... You never know... maybe she cheats? If she is a stupid as she sounds she probably does.
As for the looks.... girls that are hot and snobby like her will end up getting STD's in highschool or college anyway so don't worry about it. Also you will probably start to look more like her as you get older. And the difference between you and her is that she will always be a b***h but you can change your looks, grades, and whatever is bothering you.
Don't let her get to you. If you get to stressed over this there can be serious problems that arise. For example if you are to stressed all of the time you can get stomache ulsers. You don't want that to hapen. My advice is to get some really nice friends that accept you for who you are and just stay around them and ignore her.
I hope my advice helps.
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There is always going to be someone smarter, more talented, prettier, stronger, faster, whatever. Its impossible to ever be better than someone else. The only thing that you can do is try to be the best you that you can be. Find those things in life that give you joy and do them!
Being mean to other people is obviously not something to aspire to. People might laugh only so that she isn't mean to them. You can be the better person by not being mean and by not laughing when she is mean. There is nothing more beautiful than someone who is beautiful on the inside. Outer beauty fades with time, but inner beauty just gets better.
Hope that helps.
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dont worry . be you and then you will be happy no matter what. maybe you should get another interest that doesnt include her that way you dont have to compare yourself to her. like a drama class or acting class not only will you meet new people but you will build your confidence (as thats why most younger people go to the lessons to build confidence and speaking skills) and then who knows maybe you could be the new popular girl in school but better because you would know how it feels to not be perfect and you wouldnt judge others as harshly. no matter what you decide to do just do it because you want to, because you are really the only one that can make you happy. i am 26 and know that i was not confident in myself at all before the age of 20. you will gett here eventually and once you do you will wonder why you ever even cared about this girl. good-luck
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dont try to live by her standards, live by yours!=D what i mean by that is, she is probably trying to be her best, and i think thats what u should do, do your personal best. dont compare urself to her, if ur doing your best and have self respect, thats all that matters.
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Sweetie, just relax and remember that there will always be some better or prettier, but you just have to appreciate yourself for who you are. Just be the best you can be, or else all your efforts will be in vain. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. And the next time she is mean, tell her something. She may be your friend but she has no right to treat people cruelly.
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Be kind in time her lack of tolerance will be a turn off. It sounds like people just tolerate her meanness cause she is smart etc. This will pass. I have dated men like that years later always right and frankly there a pain in the "watch ma call it" Jealousy indicates your not confident in yourself and you need to work on your self esteem.
You can begin that by STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO THIS GIRL.
You can do it just every time your jealous or comparing say, STOP that and reconnect with your success in your life. I know you have them we all do.
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