Boys in metal bands?

i'm attracted to alternative looking men, i see a guy with tattoos, peircing and funky hair i'm instantly more attracted. of course i don't limit myself to these guys, but it IS my preference. my concern is if they put THAT much effort into looking cool, do you think it's more likely they'll be less serious about life and relatioships. i've dated a few metal heads, and they all had this "i don't care, i rule, lets get wasted" attitude. is this a coincidence, or is it common for these type of men to share this attitude?

Boys in metal bands?

well, not that i'm a pro in dating heavy metal dudes or anything, but rock n roll sort of represents a lifestyle and lots of young guys live it. lots of the older rock n roll guys like alice cooper change and realize that it is just an image and they don't have to live their life that way. they give up drinking and drugs. so i think you can find a guy who is ready for more that may look a little alternative.

might i suggest AA meetings?

i live in los angeles and there are tons of those sorts in AA.

Boys in metal bands?

Usually guys like that have a not only a very small IQ, but also a small *you know... They're just trying to compensate.

IMO, go for a nice and intelligent guy. They can appreciate you more. Believe that.....

Boys in metal bands?

by the sounds of it, the ones you find are like that...

perhaps you need to decide if that is really attractive to you for long-term relationships... cos i got a feeling they are happy for the sex and nothing else... ;)

Boys in metal bands?

I honestly think people like that are just REALLY insecure about themselves. So... yeah, I think it might cause a little strife in a relationship

Boys in metal bands?

I think you are overgeneralizing - and as for the person who implied that all people who like a specific sort of music are stupid is just.... very silly.

As with all 'groups', you will find nice/nasty/stupid/honest people.

Boys in metal bands?

My boyfriend has loads of piercings, tattoos and a red mohawk. He plays guitar in a punk/ska band.

He is the most intelligent, caring, supportive and kind person I have ever met.

I was married for 8 years previous to meeting him - my ex was a bit of a bad boy but clean cut looking (a couple of tatts and that was it); we had a good relationship whist it lasted but nothing like what I have with my new partner.

He makes me feel safe, loved and supported in whatever I want to do. Yes, he does have a bit of a 'wild side' but then so do i to be honest (hence being attracted to the 'alternative' looking guys myself) - we enjoy going out/drinking etc together but we also enjoy staying in and cooking for each other or curling up and watching a movie (or just staying in bed - hehe!). Neither of us particularly want children but we both felt like that before we met and I know if i changed my mind he'd be open to talking to me about it. He's very intelligent and creative too.

So, in summery, I think it depends on the guy! I would say that if I'd met him 10 years ago we still would have fallen for each other like we have now but maybe we both would have been a bit crazier. Maybe you're just finding that you're growing up a bit and want different things to what you did in the past, even though you're obviously still attracted to the same look. It boils down to you'll know when you meet the right person, what ever they look like. It sounds cheesy but it's the way things tend to work. In the meantime, until you find Mr. Right, just have fun - guys in metal bands tend to be good for that!